The dynamics of forgiveness in female victims of domestic violence (DV) who remain in marriage
Keywords:
Domestic violence, Forgiveness dynamics, Hollow forgiveness, Silent forgiveness, Total forgivenessAbstract
Domestic violence (DV) is a serious problem that has a wide-ranging impact, especially on victims. The majority of domestic violence victims are women. This study aims to explore the dynamics of forgiveness in wives of domestic violence victims who still live with their husbands. The sampling technique in this study used purposive sampling with the criteria of women who are victims of domestic violence; experiencing violence for more than two years; still living at home with the perpetrator; still a wife; still getting domestic violence treatment; domiciled in Magelang Regency; still in marriage with the perpetrator; and willing to participate in this study. This research uses descriptive qualitative method conducted with in-depth interviews to understand the forgiveness process that participants go through. The results showed that victims of domestic violence experience three types of forgiveness: hollow forgiveness, silent forgiveness, and total forgiveness. The forgiveness process involves a change in motivation from avoidance and revenge to doing good, although the relationship remains variable in terms of marital continuity. In conclusion, although victims choose to forgive, abusive relationships make the forgiveness process complex. The implications of this study suggest the importance of appropriate interventions in supporting victims of domestic violence to understand and process forgiveness in a healthy manner.
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